HRP LETTER SERIES: LETTER TO MY FRIEND ABOUT LOST TRUST
I do hope you had an awesome week, and a fun filled weekend. It’s the start of a new week and you’d agree that the days just seem to fly so swiftly. I write this letter to my friend who has lost trust and is quite worried about it.
Losing trust is like ripping a part of you away, there would be hardly anyone to understand you and you will be highly misinterpreted. Life may simply come to a stand still and the call to depression wouldn’t be far away. When I think about this topic friend, I can hardly forget Wole.
Wole was happily married until his wife’s younger sister came in to live with them. She was very submissive and for a fact one could have said she was more goodly to look at than Wole’s wife but Wole was sure he loved his wife. His sister-in-law had a great motive to ruin their home. She didn’t have good clothes so Wole took note in buying her new clothes. This he did continually but never neglecting his wife too.
Then one day, he bought her a phone. His wife had travelled and was due to be back late in the night. As Wole went into his room to rest since it was getting late, he slept off immediately. He didn’t notice when his sister-in-law sneaked into the bedroom and rested herself next to him. His wife came in very late that day and saw this. They were sleeping next to each other, the sister in her night wear, her husband in his underwear. She screamed and startled the young man who didn’t know what laid next to him.
Wole lost the trust and why did his sister-in-law do it? She told him later on that she wanted to compensate him for all he had done even though he hadn’t asked for anything. She couldn’t change the scene that had been played out. It was all done and Wole had to pay for it.
Trust is very volatile as it walks with the truth. Just a lie can break trust, just one wrong act can break it but it takes love to raise the walls of trust that must have been broken.
To my friend who is just like Wole, I write to tell you not to give up. Perhaps you lost the trust in your marriage, believe in God and the love you have always shared even if indeed you made a mistake. You cannot right your wrongs by cleaning them, they weren’t written with a pencil, so stop fighting with those wrongs. Learn to forgive yourself as you also seek forgiveness from others.
Perhaps it was in business, you were framed or you even did something wrong to break the trust in the ethics of your profession, I write to tell you not to give up. Losing trust could make you stop pushing but remember that an active volcano even after massive destruction is never tired of pushing itself to the surface for another impact. Though a devastating example, if the bad can be this bad, the good can be better. Prepare to make a better impact when given an opportunity.
Losing trust makes you more discerning and prepared, John Maxwell wrote a book with a strong meaning even at a first look at the book, it is titled, “Sometimes you Win, Sometimes you learn”. So learn dear friend, so it doesn’t happen again, you might never regain the trust but you are sure given an opportunity to get better with what you lost.
Till we meet again, friend I hope dearly in my heart, that the trust you may have lost will meet face to face with love which can rebuild. For your suggestions and questions, please send us a mail at [email protected] or [email protected] Feel free to drop your comments in the box below.
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