HRP LETTER SERIES: LETTER TO MY FRIEND ABOUT DEALING WITH NEGATIVE THOUGHTS
It feels great writing to you again. I hope your weekend was filled with fun activities and I sure hope you are well. Writing to you is like sharing a personal piece of myself being that you are not alone in whatever you go through and there’s always someone going through something similar and looking for a way out. Today I’m writing on dealing with negative thoughts. I’ll share an experience I had with my friend few weeks back.
We had just finished from a meeting and were both hungry, we needed cash but my account was empty (typical of me.) So, my friend decides to make a transfer to me since he had no debit card, “we could use mine”, he suggested, so he asked, “which of your accounts do I credit?” I suggested one, he was debited but then an hour later I wasn’t credited, two hours, three hours… (typical of banks). After an hour, the thought popped up, “why did you pick Bank A and not Bank B?”, I didn’t fight it and after 2 hours that was the only thing I could say— “I’m sorry I should have suggested another account”. This went on for over three hours. I felt terrible for an error I really couldn’t have avoided. In all honesty, it was NOT my mistake.
Having a negative thought or feeling handicaps you and your decisions. It makes you check on every decision you make; it is important to make decisions with a clear head but having negative feelings rooted from past experiences makes you second guess the decisions you make and have probably made in the past. It so hurts that you sometimes think you’re humble but unfortunately you are simply allowing someone sit on you because you don’t believe in your actions or the decisions you make. In times like this, your words sell you out, we often speak ill of ourselves, ‘Oh, how stupid I was’ and other times we explain unnecessarily only to think back and fall into the same statement. ‘Oh how stupid my words were”— negative thoughts about yourself lead to negative expressions and outspoken words.
My recent go to is asking myself if I’d treat a friend the way I’d treat me. If you’d tell a friend, ‘oh it’s just a mistake and not your fault’, you should also tell yourself that. Speak kind words to yourself.
Negative thoughts sell us short—friend, ever felt sorry for having and upholding a good value or price? This is what entertaining negative feelings does to us—we feel sorry for being ourselves, for presenting ourselves the way we do. The moment you begin to love yourself, you will cut off the excess fat and garbage vocabulary that makes you feel bad for being you. It took discipline to re-read my statements and say, “I don’t need to be sorry for this”, yet I’m still learning. Friend, the thoughts are not going to disappear all of a sudden, your self esteem isn’t going to boost all of a sudden. It will require hard work, discipline and being steadfast in your self belief and belief in your worth as a person.
Friend, I won’t line up affirmative words, it’s your duty to tackle each thought with its reverse, tackle what your mind says to you by what you speak to its ears. When all your mind receives is sorry, it affirms you are always wrong—sorry is good, however, let it be worth it. Be careful of what you say to yourself.
Till we meet again, consciously tackle negative thoughts friend. Have a great week and don’t forget to subscribe for more daily post. I would love to hear from you, do drop a comment friend.
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