HRP LETTER SERIES: LETTER TO MY FRIEND AFRAID OF SAYING NO
It’s another week and I’m glad penning down these words to you. As I write these words, I’d love for you to imagine, walking or sitting at your favourite spot when you see an old bottle with a letter stashed in it. Let your curiosity get past your dignity for a moment because the letter is for you. It’s addressed to you because it’s hard to say No.
When was the last time you rejected a drink because you really didn’t want it? When was the last time you bluntly told your friend that you didn’t like his/her actions even if everyone said yes to it? When was the last time you in fact told yourself “No”?
Actually, if you don’t develop a sincere relationship with yourself, it would be hard to be sincere with anyone else. It starts with problems like waking up late, eating too much, addiction to games, the TV set, habits, behaviours or drugs. Till we learn to say No to our bad bits, we won’t successfully tell someone No and trust that we did the right thing. We’d doubt and beat ourselves up for saying No; that’s if we eventually muster the courage to say it.
Saying No causes a big shift, it’s a big deal so much that you can feel your palms sweat when you say it. It’s hard to because you don’t want to hurt your friend’s feelings or anyone’s feelings. However, saying No maybe the best decision you could ever take at such points.
Firstly, no one likes to hear “No”, not even you. So conquer the feelings because feelings aren’t always right. I’m sure, a lot of people struggle to say “No, I’m filled up” when eating a favourite delicious meal. Some struggle to say No to a drink so they don’t look like weaklings. Some simply struggle to say, “No, it’s time to wake up”. Learn to say No to yourself first.
When you can honestly tell yourself the truth, you’d be confident or at least courageous to face other people. A lot of sad incidents could have been stopped if someone just said “No, don’t drink and drive”, “No, I won’t eat another bite”, “No, my friend, don’t do it”.
Friend, I’m not writing to make you beat yourself but to stir you from the fear of what ifs that keep you from speaking the truth. Be extremely true to yourself friend and to others. You’d be glad you remained true.
Till we meet again, don’t be afraid to speak the truth. The right thing doesn’t always lie on how you feel. Do feel free to drop your comments and suggestions below. For personal questions send us an email at [email protected] or message us via whatsapp at 09057180149.
Have an awesome week.
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