HRP LETTER SERIES: LETTER TO MY FRIEND PRESSURISING OTHERS
Dear friend,
This is quite an unusual letter, however my love for you wouldn’t let me hit the nail on the head without saying happy new year! The days are counting already yet we can’t change it, the year is still new and blazing.
As the days begin to go by, we are prompt to measure ourselves and seek some sort of validation to check if we are qualified or hitting the marks we’ve set for ourselves. The irony of this is when we start poking our noses in validating others. This is why I call this an unusual letter—it seems to criticize, but friend, you know me, I can’t help but tell you the truth.
It’s a new year and even if it was the middle or last day of the year, give people a break in their life’s decisions. I want you to note that I started with the fact that we seek to validate ourselves, we struggle with personal pressures sufficed by the standard we have set for ourselves. If this happens to virtually everyone, my question would be, would you entertain external pressures from people? I’m sure you wouldn’t like that as it is intrusive.
Well, friend, intrusive is the word that describes you when you stress on the fact that your friend is failing in school without helping. It makes no apparent sense to pressure someone who is already pressured about his failure, job loss, break up, financial loss or workload. Often times, this is done unintentionally so we must be sensitive to what we say and when we say it.
Friendships are destroyed voluntarily or by loss due to suicide through pressure. By research, a smiling face is almost always the representation of someone who is depressed. Speaking pain instead of healing at their breaking points never helps no matter how inclined you feel to make them realise their pain is their fault.
Finally don’t judge the lives of others by your standards. The reason you pressure others is because they are not meeting up to your standards or picture of what life should look like not their own standards. Before you pressure your friend, remember your life is no yardstick. Be patient enough to hear what your friend thinks about life, listen to them concerning the standards they wish to live by.
Till we meet again, the easiest way to pressure others is to force them to live your dream. It is indeed selfish as every man has a dream. What do you think about this? Would you like to share a thought? Share them below and make sure to click the share button.
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Yours truly,
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