HRP LETTER SERIES: LETTER TO MY FRIEND USING THE PAST TO JUDGE MY PRESENT
It feels great writing to you today. I hope your week started off on a good note. Today, I’m writing with an emotional undertone. Why? We all want a chance.
Friend, do you ever sit and critic yourself on things you did in the past, battling with the idea of someone remembering and criticizing you just as you are doing the same to yourself? This is so real from imagining how you wore your clothes the wrong way, to farting in public or simply offending someone.
I do, so possibly you do too and now I know situations and experiences change us. As we mature we all regret some of the awful things we did in the past and even the events we couldn’t control like stepping on a lady’s prom dress or spilling juice on a friend’s shirt just before his interview. We all are filled with regrets and more than ever wish we would be given a second chance. This letter isn’t to some random stranger we offended but a friend who has seen our mess and isn’t ready to trust anymore.
Friend, since it’s agreed that we have regrets especially when you are all grown, we could start a new cycle by refusing to judge a friend’s present by his past. I know some people refuse to change, however some are willing to in fact many are. After correction, we shouldn’t expect the wrong to happen again, give a benefit of doubt.
A popular instance is a lady who used to be a call-girl. She changes after meeting a friend, few years down the line she is more stabilized and this friend’s brother wants to marry her, he feels they are compatible yet Ms. Friend kicks against it because of course, she knows her past. She explains her past to her brother however the brother knew this before proposing marriage to the changed lady yet she kicks against it.
Friend, this could look controversial, not a lot of people consider love as a verb, we’ll rather say it and leave it as a noun. We all want a chance—to prove we are worth the job even after messing up at the job interview, to prove you are a better parent to an abandoned or neglected child as you mature, to prove that you are ready to study hard and are willing to sit for the promotion exam even after failing woefully the first time. We all want a chance but we aren’t ready to give it.
Those who show mercy will receive mercy—this is one blessing in the Holy book that proclaims a balance. Friend, show mercy, believe once more. Give someone a chance to be better.
Trust isn’t built immediately after a terrible hurt. We must be keen and careful and hopeful so we don’t lose the right people for lack of trust.. I’m sure this may raise questions, suggestions and real life experiences. Feel free to share them in the comments section and in case you have an anonymous question, message us at [email protected]
Till we meet again, have a great week friend.
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