Dear Steve and Samantha,
Don’t be a monitoring & domineering spirit!
Just because you helped that fellow has not licensed you to lord over. Some persons just like it when people are indebted to them especially when they have just helped. It is good to be grateful and remember whosoever helped you in time of needs, but controlling & monitoring their movements is a NO! Secondly, when you have financially helped someone, don’t be quick to dish out advice and try to force it on them, what they might just need is financial assistance not for you to be a deputy God over their lives. Respect people even when they had “begged” from you. Shalom!